Forty Something and Fabulous

Mammograms

2009-11-23T12:11:00.001-08:00

Dr Oz discusses breast cancer and mammograms @ 3:00 pm on fox 5.

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2009-11-21T08:55:00.000-08:00

It been long time since I posted to my blog where did the time
go....well now that school is back in session for my pre teen and she
is in middle school my time has been occupied by school projects one
after another...I don't remember having this much school work when I
was this age....maybe I did, whose knows I can't remember that far
back...

My phone contract expired a few weeks ago so I decided I needed a
serious phone upgrade...I treated myself to an iPhone....I just love
this phone...it's like a pocket size computer...it has many features
on it that makes me truly happy with my decision...i am sitting here
in bed posting on this blog while watching tv--how cool is that..with
that said my problem has been solved with having time to post to my
blog--I can do it anywhere and at anytime---so stay tune for regular
posting.....

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It's The Weekend

2009-09-25T13:13:00.000-07:00

This week went by really quick. I am so glad, with school back in section I have to get up really early every morning so we can leave on time so my daughter can to get to school by 8:00 a.m.. I seriously look forward to my weekends..

My morning exercise routine has been going really well.. I am staying committed and pushing my self to get up earlier so I can work out for 30 minutes before getting ready for work.. I am not trying to loose weight...just tone up..

I read a few blogs this morning and I was amazed at how many blog entry were about love pains... wow! I thank god I have moved on from those mind set that keep you shackled to a relationship that has long been over... we need to learn to let go and not subject ourselves to mental abuse from the other person who no longer loves or respect us.

I am so anxious for the weather to change from indian summer to fall already.. I am ready for some jackets and boots weather.... however I am not looking forward to the snow and freezing temperatures.

What about you? How was your week...

Activia, DanActive yogurt buyers to receive refunds in false advertising settlement

2009-09-21T10:50:00.000-07:00

FYI!

Activia, DanActive yogurt buyers to receive refunds in false advertising settlement

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Volunteering

2009-09-21T07:25:00.001-07:00

Daily Word: To is the day the lord has made let us rejoice and be glad in it

Do You Volunteer?

I am so glad school is back in session, this puts me back on a normal routine so I am able to post on my blog and catch-up on reading some of my favs....

I had a very rewarding weekend... My daughter and I was up very early Saturday morning so we could head on downtown to our volunteer duties. We cleaned up the pier by the Hudson River... It was a beautiful day to be outside. The sun was bright. The air was a bit cool with a slight breeze.. This my kind of weather, not hot, not cold.... just right....

When we arrived at the clean up site, we were greeted by the coordinator and given a brief run down on what was gonna take place. She cautioned us to be careful while rummaging through the trash.. You don't want to get poked by any sharpe objects. The debris that was picked up had to classified and put into a category on a form that was handed to us. Along with that form we were given gloves, a long handle fishing nets and clear plastic bags...

We used the long handle fishing net to scoop up the debris from the water. It was amazing the stuff we found when we looked at it closely. Amongst all the pieces of plastic, bottles, candy wrappers, straws, bottle top we found syringes and drug paraphanalia... we even found a baby crab and a piece of jelly fish... we threw those back into the water as those are not a threat to the environment.... It's so rewarding to me when I volunteer.. doing my part to make this world a cleaner place. .. What about you, do you volunteer? and where?

2009-08-05T10:45:00.000-07:00

Growing up as a kid I use hear women say " how you get your man is how you will loose him" ..my take on this statement is that if you get your many by taking him from another woman or any underhanded means necessary it is the same way you will loose him....You will have that insecurity in your mind that he could possible do the same thing to you. What am I getting at here is...
this doesnt work out and he moves on to another women and want to bring this mess to her and the women is wise to his game and has no tolerance to BS then he wants to talk S**T about her because she won't put up with the nonsense......

Ladies we need to raise our standards and conform to our morals if things are going to get better for us in the dating and marriage arena..I am quite sure you were all raised with strong morals and to have respect for yourself. You need to stop playing along and encouraging these men with this type of mess..... If we all said no and put our morals before everything else then maybe some of this game playing would cease...... because they would have no one to play the game with....

As for my neighbor I dont know how long she thinks this is going to last..... this man in my eyes is not a good man.. a good man would have severed all ties and found a place of his own before he tries to form a relationship with someone else......I pray and hope for the best for her and her kids......

well last night I had an interesting conversation with my neighbor while drying clothes in the laundry room... I have known this women for 10 years..and we alway chit chat about the kids, her love life and mine..... she has three girls.. the oldest is going to college this fall and the youngest is going to the fifth grade... She is a year or two younger than I am....so I would consider her grown....ok.. so we got to talking about moving and getting a new place... she knows that I am trying to move and have been spending a lot of time faithfully looking for something affordable.... she also is trying to move but she wants to purchase a house.. she and her boyfriend so they are in the processing of looking also....

We moved on from this conversation to her telling my that in a few weeks she is going down south to spend sometime with her boyfriends mom.....and she is taking the three girls... she likes his mom and they spend lots of time of the phone talking.... I thought to myself that's a plus.. his mom and her is cool thats good...

She said that his mom would share tidbits about conversations she would have with her son about her and he really loves her and wants to get a house soon so they could all move in together and be a family.....

I was impressed.. a brother trying to do the right thing by making plans to include her and her kids.... thats a plus also...

By this point I am really happy for her.. that things are looking good for her and her kids....

Then she proceeded to tell me how she met him in the first place.... I was not impressed with this part at all... first of all he was introduced to her by another parent as her husband while dropping off the kids at school.....she said the next few morning when she got to the school he was there solo dropping off the child and they would chit chat.....this went on for a while.... until he started riding the train with her to work after dropping off the kids......

She questioned him on his relationship with this women... come to find out he lives with her (but not married)... he claims the relationship is over..he doesn't love her and his family don't care for her either....

She bought that mess and continued to see this man.... he spends time with her and her kids but he goes home to the other woman....he never sleeps over her house....he claims the woman knows that the relationship is over and he sleeps in the living room on the sofa.. however at times she try to seduce him into having sex with her... but he resist her because he knows he want to be with my neighbor...

This all sounds like BS to me..... this is a perfect example of a woman putting up with all kinds of crap for the sake of having a man....let me say a partial man..

Women like this are the ones that spoil these men into thinking that its ok to have more than one woman... now if

Good Morals

2009-08-04T08:26:00.000-07:00

I hope everyone had a lovely weekend... I did spent Saturday and Sunday shopping up a storm with my little one..... Its feels good to spend and not have to worry... I thank god my source of all things who provides for all my needs and wants... .On to my topic for the day.....

Morals as defined by the dictionary "concerned with principles of right and wrong or conforming to standards of behavior and character based on those principle ...

I live my life based on morals..most of which have been in stilled in me as a child by my parents.. and as an adult my morals became even more solid as I strive to live a life that is pleasing to christ...I am raising my daughter the same way.....

Morals keeps us on the right track.. and defines our stardard for living and in how we conduct ourselves and treat others...

Our morals can be seem in our behavior as well as our conversations/opinions... this will give others an insite into who you are as a person...

My point in telling you all of this is that.. There is a lady that I recently met at a class that my daughter attends two night out of the week... She is a married lady around my age.. she has two kids a boy in college and a daughter around the age of my daughter...

I met this lady back in July.. she drops her daughter off for lessons and while we have to wait around for the class to be over which is an hour.. she and I would have conversations to past the time.

We have a variety of topics that we chit chat on to past the time... In one of our conversation it came out that she likes to party after work... she loves to dance and now that its summertime and there are free concerts all over the place she looks forward to attending them.....

I expressed to her how nice i thought it was that she and her husband hang out after work and have a good time.... her response to me was "I dont hang out with my husband he is a home body".. "I hang out with my girls".....blink..blink ...she proceeded to tell me that she over does it sometimes by hanging out wednesdays, thursdays, fridays and something saturday with her friends all in one week.....her husband is not too pleased with that....

(me raised eyebrows).... so I asked what does your husband say...she said he gets upset and doesn't like it....but she goes anyway... she will ask him if he wants to come and he says no....so she make plans with her friends and they go....

Now her husbands seems like a very nice and respectable man... we have had a couple of conversations while we were waiting around for the kids to be finished with the lessons...(while she is out partying while he is with the daughter at the lessons)

After knowing and seeing all of this .... this is a disaster waiting to happen....now if I was a different kind of women without morals.. I could see this as an opportunity to make a move on her husband....she is never around always out partying, and she has confided to me that he doesn't like it and gets upset, I am quite sure the man is lonely... if he doesn't have a side piece that she doesnt know about..... Women we create our own nightmare sometimes....

Now if this man decides to cheat and have a women on the side because his wife is always out partying and he is left at home with the kid... then who will be blamed for this........she will blame him and say he was wrong.... but what role did you as the wife play in leaving the door open for this disaster.....

Not all women and men have good morals or practice good morals...adults know right from wrong.. women know who you are telling your personal business too or better yet keep somethings private..... people will use what you say to their advantage.... then you will have only yourself to blame for running your mouth too much........

My Journey

2009-07-24T18:59:00.000-07:00

I am back...Its has been well over a month since I last posted...I have been on a spiritual journey to get my mind right where I am at peace and living my life to the fullest.....I began reading a book that has been on the best seller list for quite sometime now...and its also been on my mental list as a must read....Joel Osteen - Your Best Life Now. as side from the bible this book has had a profound impact on me...He outlines and provides details on how to live at your full potential....I find myself looking forward to reading this book every day, meditating on what I have read and applying it to my life daily.....Its well written, easy to understand, he shares stories from his life and others that relate to the topic in that chapter, it is very positive and upbeat, humorous, and down to earth book that we all can identify with....

The teaching in this book has really taken me to another level spiritually... I find myself at peace because I am learning to focus on the good things, trusting and put all my faith in god because he is my source for all things.....I am seeing so much changes in me and my life. I can see where God is meeting all my needs and he is providing for me.....

Over the next few post I will share more from each chapter and what I have learned.......

Be Blessed

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Letting Go

2009-06-11T11:41:00.000-07:00

I read a very disturbing article titled " He beat me, but I still loved him" today in my local paper.. The article is about a woman who was in an extremely abusive relationship...to the point where this man kidnapped her and held her for 17 days while he abused and tortured her....but she still love him...

Now this dude is in jail for kidnapping and the case is now in court... The woman is called to the witness stand to testify.....The articles state the jury was spellbound with her tale of love and hate... in between wiping the tears she would steal a peak at him across the room...

She described the abuse and in between that she talked about the good times they shared and how he treated her good..... when asked why she didn't she go to the police she stated because I loved him and I figured it would stop sooner or later.....

I am not here to judge anyone..I have had my share of an abusive relationship but nothing like this one... As I thought this one through the thought came to mind that we as human being need to learn to let go... As children growing we are taught and guided by parents and adults about so many different things that shaped and mold us into the adults that we are now....

but one of the things we are not thought is how to let go and move the hell on..... looking back over my life this is something I could have benefited from a great deal as an adult....

I am not saying that this is the answer to escaping an abusive relationship, looking back on my previous relationship I hung on because it hurt like hell to let go.... We have to learn to take the pain and pick ourselves up and get the hell out...The pain will eventually go away.....

All Things Are Possible

2009-06-11T08:33:00.000-07:00

I consider myself a spiritual person.. I do believe in God and Jesus Christ.. I believe he died for my sins so I could be redeem from a life of sin......

Recently I have committed myself to not only pray when I wake up or go to bed at night but pray about everything and seek his guidance....

I know everyone has there own belief so I am not pushing mine on anyone...What I am saying is this works for me and my lifestyle......

Now I firmly believe in having faith and along with faith one must take action to see it manifest....and I believe that all things are possible through God who is in control regardless of what one on says or a situation may look like...

Now for past few weeks I have been reading a book by Edwene Gaines..The Four Spiritual Laws of Prosperity.... I am not going into too much about this book... I will do a review when I am done reading... so you can go and check it out for yourself.....

In this book the author shares and stories of her own experiences from a spiritual point of view on the laws of prosperity.. This is a very interesting book for me so I have comment to following and put into practice what I have learned thus far.....

One of thing I am committing too is setting goals for prosperity....remember prosperity doesn't always mean money... one could have prosperity in relationships, at the job, for your health.. etc....

The author recommends writing down your goals/commitments, verbalizing through praying in detail what you want and expect the the lord to do..then stepping out on faith to achieve these goals....

My first goal is to move into a bigger apartment, in a safe clean building and neighborhood, near a park for my daughter, within walking distance of transportation, with plenty of parking at an affordable rent.....Now I know and I am well aware of the stay of the economy and the price of renting these day... However, I stand firm on the fact that all things are possible through good....

On Monday I started my search... I saw a few ads.... I even signed up with a place that provide help with finding apartments all over the tri-state area....my goals is to search online and the newpapers looking for my dream apartment....

So this morning I get a call on my cell phone from an online site that I had signed up with during my apt search.... The young lady introduced herself to me and ask when I was looking to move... I gave her my time frame which is 9/1/09......

She proceeded to ask me what I was looking for and how much I was willing to pay..... I was very specific with her in detail as well as the price.... after all this was said and done the work caught and attitude with me... She feels that I am expecting too much for the price that I am will to pay.... I laughed when she said this....because I know the capabilities of the higher power that I serve....

I explained to her that my faith will lead me to where I need to... she got extremely annoyed with me and wanted to argue.....

I politely said to You call me, You asked me what I was looking for, I explained to you without stuttering.. If you know you are unable to me my demands then.... tell me so.. so we can end this conversation.... I wished her a blessed day and hung up my phone....

Now you see how easily a person can kill someone dreams and hopes... One has to be very careful of people and their opinions and the negativity that they put out.... I know it was the enemy in disguise... but it shall not sway me from the faith that I have........

People don't let anyone project there negative thoughts on you because they can't see beyond what is in front of there face....

2009-05-22T12:53:00.001-07:00

Street Grate Collapes while students are standing on it taking class pictures...

As I walk the streets during my daily commute I always try to avoid walking on these street grate...It's just something about them that just doesn't look safe ...and I am not comfortable walking on top of something that has a big hallow hole beneath....Have you ever look down into one of them... some of them are really deep and dark.... fortunately for these students this one wasn't one of those.....

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Randomosity

2009-05-22T07:29:00.000-07:00

Can we leave early today... It's a holiday weekend dammit!

Went to Sephora during lunch with my co-worker.. the sales lady was really nice... she gave us a sample spray bottle of our favorite perfume and a small makeup mirror for our cosmetic bag.

I love free stuff, especially if its something I can use..

I think I am loving this Marc Jacobs fragrant - Daisy..I am a floral scent type of women....

If you have to constantly hold down your skirt when the slightest bit of wind blow then you know its too short to be worn outside...

It is mandatory to wear a bra if your breast is heading south....

Some people just don't think about their safety when they stand in front of someone who is already standing pretty close to the edge of a train platform and the train is about to pull in....what if this person who you stood in front of is a lunatic and pushes you onto the track while the train in pulling in......

When entering a bus or train and you see an empty seat... as you approach to take a seat do you check out the person who is sitting in the next to make sure they are not exhibiting any abnormal behaviors....

Does being rich helps to keep you in shape.....

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Term Limits

2009-05-21T12:30:00.000-07:00

I came across an interesting post on a forum that I frequent. The writer posted this question SHOULD WE HAVE TERM LIMITS ON MARRIAGES LICENSE...This question made me go ummmmmm....This doesn't sound like a bad idea...The writer went on to say that the term should be for one year and after the time is up you can either renew or go your own separate way... However as part of the renewal process you may want to negotiate some conditions if there were issues during the first year of marriage...

I think most people would benefit from this... You sould learn a lot about each other in the first year of marriage and by the time the term limit is up you should know more or less if you can stay with this person till death do you part and if there are issues you can work them out or move the hell on...

I can see this saving the expense of getting divorce.

The down side is hopefully there are no children produced during this time period... because this takes it to another level.......

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Random Thoughts

2009-05-21T11:06:00.001-07:00

While in meetings I wish I could just tell some people who go on and on to "Shut The Hell Up".

Why can't we have four day work weeks.

They need to learn how to regulate the air in this building.. It's freezing in here. Do they really expect us to get work done..

I spent last night having an enjoyable conversation on the phone with someone that I met online... during the conversation it came up that he's unemployed... ?????? more on this later....

I need to get a pedicure

If I sitting at my desk and I am focused on my computer screen ..I am desperately avoiding eye contact with you. why do people insist on having a conversation with me... not about work.. but bs! Can't they see I am ignoring them...

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Ramblings

2009-05-20T08:57:00.000-07:00

Why do some men misinterpret a cordial hello as an invite for stalking.... while standing on the train platform yesterday reading my book I looked up and... my eyes made contact with a man that was walking by me.. he smiled and said hello and smiled and said hello also... now tell me why did this man decide to stop walking and stand right next to me.

I immediately went back to reading my book... but I noticed from corner of my eyes that he was seriously checking me out... now if the bro was my type then I wouldn't have mind but he was not... first of all I am not into the short bros nor am I into a man thats too grown up ( as in old).... don't get me wrong I am not that tall.. I am of average height which is 5' 6" the man had to be at least 5' 4" ....and a lot older than I am at least in appearance.... come on now....

So I pretended not to notice him... my train came and I step on and sat down.. with all the empty seats around this fool decided to sit right next to me. What the freak is up with that.......

I continued to read my book and I could see from the corner of my eyes that he was seriously itching to say something to me........

He mustered up the courage to ask me what I was reading and if it was interesting..... Trying to be polite as I normally am... I turned around and told him yes and showed him the cover.....

I proceeded to continue reading my book... and watching him from the corner of my eye hoping he didn't have anything else to say....

He kept eye balling me and I guess trying to figure out what to say next..... thank goodness I wasn't going that far on the train so my stop came quickly....

I closed my book, lifted my hand bag and proceeded to get up from my seat....as my back was faced to him I heard him say... Have a nice evening.... I just kept it moving.......

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Over Slept

2009-05-13T09:58:00.001-07:00

I can't believe I over slept this morning... I woke up at 7:30...damn!... maybe it was two glasses of wine I had last night. lol. It made me sleep like a baby... none of that tonight ... I need to get to bed at good time so I can get up on time and get to work by 9:00 a.m.

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